5 Signs Someone May be Suicidal

Suicide, specifically among younger people, is a tragedy that we hear about more and more frequently. This becomes less surprising when we learn that South Africa has the eighth-highest suicide rate in the world*. What is important to know is that in many cases, suicide can be prevented if the person is given the right support at the right time.

Nikki Themistocleous, a registered clinical psychologist with a special interest in psychotherapy, explains that although not everyone who has a desire to end their life will behave in the same way, there are five clear warning signs you can look out for. Ask yourself if the person is:

  1. Depressed, hopeless and withdrawing from you

They have mood changes and are mostly pessimistic and unhappy. They often express feelings of hopelessness, helplessness, worthlessness and can see no way out of their circumstances. They noticeably withdraw from family and friends.

  • Disinterested in life and eating/sleeping differently

You’re noticing they’re just not interested in what they used to enjoy, they’re not looking after themselves and they’re sleeping or eating a lot more/less than usual.

  • Preoccupied with death and talking about dying and/or killing themselves

They focus on death and may talk about having no reason to live or suggest that it would be better if they were not ‘here’. Verbal expressions can be as direct as, “I don’t want to live anymore”, or more indirect, “there’s nothing to live for anymore” or “people will be better off without me”.

  • Self-harming or acting recklessly

They’re openly searching for a means to kill themselves or displaying risk-taking behaviour like driving dangerously. It’s important to note that someone who has previously attempted suicide is at a much higher risk.

  • Rounding off relationships and sorting their possessions

They’re contacting people to say ‘goodbye’ – old friends or extended family. They seem to be getting their affairs in order by giving away prized possessions, making a will and writing notes. While doing this, they can seem unusually happy and peaceful compared to their recent state.

If you’re worried about a friend or family member, and they are displaying any of these signs, take them seriously. Approach the person without judgement and with empathy and ask if they are having thoughts of suicide. It’s important to tell them it is not uncommon, that depression can be treated and that there is help and support they can access. Urge them to see a doctor or call a helpline and offer to help with the booking. Do not promise to keep their feelings a secret as alerting their support network to the situation could save their life.

Suicide Helplines:

  • The South African Depression and Anxiety Group

SADAG Suicide Crisis Line

0800 567 567

SMS 31393

* http://www.news24.com/SouthAfrica/News/SA-has-8th-highest-suicide-rate-in-world-20140910

Sources:

http://www.yourlifecounts.org/learning-centre/know-signs-symptoms-prevent-suicide

http://www.webmd.com/depression/guide/depression-recognizing-signs-of-suicide#1

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